Friendship - What it Means?

It takes a lot of understanding, time and trust to gain a close friendship with someone. As we approach the time of our life of complete uncertainty our friends are one of our most precious asset.

I have been fortunate enough so far to have quality friends. I can fall back on them in case of any good or bad events in my life. People have generally asked me lots of time as to how I maintain my friendship as well as how do I have such quality of friends. I guess I do not have any success mantra for this, the only thing I can say is that I was lucky enough to have that kind of people coming up in life. Sometimes, if I start thinking, then I can figure out one thing which I intentionally did - I tend to get away from people fast with whom my frequency does not match up. On the other hand I tend to dig dip with people whom I think I can go ahead and my thinking and thought process matches. I have never done any friendship thinking that this may go far off or this may not move ahead. I generally take it as it comes.

I often have been flacked also for going extra miles for friends. I will not show any kind of inhibition in accepting that I do go extra mile for them, the reason being; it is one of the relations where you have choice. Most of the relations are there since the birth but it is one where we have our choice. I think we should be responsible for our choices and should also respect our choices. I have always believed that if we cannot respect our decisions then no one will ever do respect it.

Seriously speaking, it demands a lot of sacrifice also to gain a close friendship. We should always keep in mind that we are doing friendship with the individual, not with his/her qualities or flaws.Like a plant we have to nourish it with love and understanding. Sometimes you will have to sit and listen to lots of stuff going on and around your friends to gain trust and build the relationship. Sometimes you have to push your friend in order to put them on the track. All the while you have to jude what works out best with each individual. Sometimes you have to shred tears with them and sometimes you have to smile with them.

I guess this is what I have got from my friends and this is what I am writting-

They saw me change. They gave me room, freedom to screw up, to grow and learn my own lessons, my own way, in my own time. Throught the years we have had our phases, our ups and downs and I expect we will continue beacuse that is the way it goes. We know we will be each other's constant from now on. We will all continue to grow separately together, all the while providing unconditional love, understanding and support only friends like these are capable of.